when he called.
I've approached this dating thing somewhat haphazardly. My mind says, "SunFresh...get out there to meet somebody so that you can start the process of having a relationship so that you can get married within the next 3-5 years." But my heart has been on some, "Woman, give me a rest...I've been beaten this year." So that manifests itself in me hanging out with people, enjoying their company, but not feeling a guy pluck at my heart strings. And not really allowing myself to be open to that.
Well dag on it...the body never lies. When I talk to him, I've got a dumb ass smile on my face, my thoughts get jumbled, voice gets an octave higher. Two weeks ago, I was kind of like...ehhhh take it or leave. He's cute, but I'm not sure.
Well today, I found myself really looking forward to interaction with him. He offered to take me to the airport for my flight tomorrow. To me, this is about the nicest, most comforting gesture. I typically drive myself to the airport and hate breaking down in vulnerability to ask anybody...especially at inconvenient times. Plus, he lives on the West Side of town, I live on the east AND I've got to be at the airport at 8:00, so he's going to forfeit sleep for me.
Last night, our 4th date, was the first time that I kind of let my hair down. I wore the jeans, wore the hair curly, danced around and sang my heart out to 80s rock, 90s rap and 00s hip-hop. All I know is that I was having fun.
Before I left the house, I internally decided that I was open to a kiss; not a tongue soap opera kiss, but a quick and sweet union of the lips. So as the night came to a close, I was nervous. We embraced...a good tight one, the one where you're slightly on your toes, face nuzzled in his neck and arms holding on as if you're about to fall...like fall. Quick & sweet.
I haven't fallen, but I've definitely tripped.
8.14.2008
Blog Flavor of the Week
Tango Mag. If you have not yet checked it out, do so! It's a webazine that has vast perspectives on being a woman in and out of love. The site is organized so that you can browse topics no matter what stage in or out of love you are. Single, Taken, Married, Starting Over (Divorced/Broken-Up)Some topics that sparked in my interest include:
Marrying Mr Wrong I’m sitting on our deck in the Hamptons an hour after everyone has left, realizing that my marriage needs to end. There have been too many red flags and it’s been too hard for too long. I’m drained. I’m sad. I’m lonely. My husband is just on the other side of the screen door, sleeping on the sofa we bought together at Ikea right after we bought the house. On his chest, our eleven-month-old daughter drools in her half-sleep.
The New Housewife According to CNN, a new breed of housewife is emerging: one who’s jobless, childless and home by choice.
Why am I still Single? She says the number of women who are romantically uninvolved is a result of one major factor: our culture tells us we don’t need relationships.
Black and Female Destined to be Single As a successful black woman in corporate America I had a very hard time finding black men who understood and weren’t intimidated by my busy lifestyle, weren’t already dating or married to white women and who weren’t gay
Single By Choice Though the “freemale” sounds like a creature found in a jar at Ripley’s Believe or Not!, she’s actually a single-by-choice woman who has chosen her freedom over a family.
I'm purposely leaving out the article entitled Anal S.ex for Beginners. What what in the butt? NO SIR.
Any comments, questions or concerns related to the italicized teasers? Are you a freemale? Are you a successful (defined in terms of a professional career) black woman experiencing the waohs of dating? Are you married and miserable? ...it seems like on the tango there is something for everyone.
Marrying Mr Wrong I’m sitting on our deck in the Hamptons an hour after everyone has left, realizing that my marriage needs to end. There have been too many red flags and it’s been too hard for too long. I’m drained. I’m sad. I’m lonely. My husband is just on the other side of the screen door, sleeping on the sofa we bought together at Ikea right after we bought the house. On his chest, our eleven-month-old daughter drools in her half-sleep.
The New Housewife According to CNN, a new breed of housewife is emerging: one who’s jobless, childless and home by choice.
Why am I still Single? She says the number of women who are romantically uninvolved is a result of one major factor: our culture tells us we don’t need relationships.
Black and Female Destined to be Single As a successful black woman in corporate America I had a very hard time finding black men who understood and weren’t intimidated by my busy lifestyle, weren’t already dating or married to white women and who weren’t gay
Single By Choice Though the “freemale” sounds like a creature found in a jar at Ripley’s Believe or Not!, she’s actually a single-by-choice woman who has chosen her freedom over a family.
I'm purposely leaving out the article entitled Anal S.ex for Beginners. What what in the butt? NO SIR.
Any comments, questions or concerns related to the italicized teasers? Are you a freemale? Are you a successful (defined in terms of a professional career) black woman experiencing the waohs of dating? Are you married and miserable? ...it seems like on the tango there is something for everyone.
Up the ante
So last night I had a date with Miracle Man. This was the 4th one, and so far so good. Earlier this week, I sent a text saying: You? Me? Bowling? I was getting bored with the dinner dates because really, that's how you inadvertantly gain weight (eating out...and eating for free). Drop some unique non-dinner date ideas.
Additionally, he asked if I ever wear jeans. Umm, of course. But our first 2 dates were after work and our one weekend date, I wore white capris. Plus, I think some of the best dates involve a bit of competition.
To up the ante a bit...
SunFresh: We'll have to come up with a bet. Loser has to????
Miracle Man: Ohhhh. Interesting. Any ideas? My mind is all over the place on that one.
SunFresh: Lol, PG13 and below. How about you think on it and we'll both write it down. At the end of the game, the winner presents the loser with the task. There is room for debate.
So due to piss poor AT&T service, I get his text requesting to push the date time back by 45 minutes. I get to the alley at 8 pm. There is another blog in itself waiting to happen based on an attractive female sitting at a bar alone. Let's just say that my two drinks were free and I got Miracle Man a free drink as well.
Without gorry details, first game he won by 1 point, second game I won by 1 point. Neither time did we break 100...so we're pretty equally yoked. But there was a considerable amount of trash talking & flirting. I'm warming up to him.
The last game, I looked at my left hand and said, "Left-hand, it is your day today. You are my dominant hand; however, right handed people taught me sports/activities; therefore I'm trained to do most things with the right hand. But you know what, left-hand? Tonight is your night. I'll let you bowl."
Ya girl bowled 2 strikes and a spare on the first three rounds. Needless to say, my secret weapon, my left-hand, came through and delivered a V for me. I won bowling and the bet....
He's cooking me dinner!
Additionally, he asked if I ever wear jeans. Umm, of course. But our first 2 dates were after work and our one weekend date, I wore white capris. Plus, I think some of the best dates involve a bit of competition.
To up the ante a bit...
SunFresh: We'll have to come up with a bet. Loser has to????
Miracle Man: Ohhhh. Interesting. Any ideas? My mind is all over the place on that one.
SunFresh: Lol, PG13 and below. How about you think on it and we'll both write it down. At the end of the game, the winner presents the loser with the task. There is room for debate.
So due to piss poor AT&T service, I get his text requesting to push the date time back by 45 minutes. I get to the alley at 8 pm. There is another blog in itself waiting to happen based on an attractive female sitting at a bar alone. Let's just say that my two drinks were free and I got Miracle Man a free drink as well.
Without gorry details, first game he won by 1 point, second game I won by 1 point. Neither time did we break 100...so we're pretty equally yoked. But there was a considerable amount of trash talking & flirting. I'm warming up to him.
The last game, I looked at my left hand and said, "Left-hand, it is your day today. You are my dominant hand; however, right handed people taught me sports/activities; therefore I'm trained to do most things with the right hand. But you know what, left-hand? Tonight is your night. I'll let you bowl."
Ya girl bowled 2 strikes and a spare on the first three rounds. Needless to say, my secret weapon, my left-hand, came through and delivered a V for me. I won bowling and the bet....
He's cooking me dinner!
8.13.2008
It's a Celebration, Bitches!
I just learned that it's a Holiday that I and a special select group of people can partake in.
Left Handers Day!
Happy Left Handers Day all my fellow lefties.
(I'm not making this up, and my right hand is slightly jealous right now).
Left Handers Day!
Happy Left Handers Day all my fellow lefties.
(I'm not making this up, and my right hand is slightly jealous right now).
The List
1. Get a Wii, Wii Fit and Rockband Hero
2. Take gymnastics: learn how to do a back handspring again
3. Take yoga/pilates
4. Run the peachtree road race
5. Be more active in AULYP
6. Volunteer more often
7. Hike a mountain
8. Go white water rafting once a summer
9. Drink more water
10. Develop a spiritual habit (meditation)
11. Have a friend teach me golf and/or tenis
12. Go to a Nascar event
13. Drive a sports car around a Nascar race track.
2. Take gymnastics: learn how to do a back handspring again
3. Take yoga/pilates
4. Run the peachtree road race
5. Be more active in AULYP
6. Volunteer more often
7. Hike a mountain
8. Go white water rafting once a summer
9. Drink more water
10. Develop a spiritual habit (meditation)
11. Have a friend teach me golf and/or tenis
12. Go to a Nascar event
13. Drive a sports car around a Nascar race track.
Can I join my local JCC?
They have gymnastic classes and I want to do that again.
I'm not trying to convert. I just want to have fun.
I'm not trying to convert. I just want to have fun.
I could not find a Wii and ....
Phelps is giving away gold medals for Christmas. To his mailman.
and I wish I wer young and agile enough to take gymnastics again.
and I wish I wer young and agile enough to take gymnastics again.
8.12.2008
BOB
Ladies, get your mind out the gutter. Not rabbit, or bullet (although I do have a pressing question re: naughty bobs. perhaps I'll close this out with that).
Black Owned Business. More specifically, contractors or other BOBS that provide a service rather than a product. This morning while listening to the radio, the DJ said that she was DONE with BOB. Within the past month, she had needed about 5 projects done to keep her house from crumbling. She wanted to show support for black folks; but is now exasperated with the lack of quality service. Not showing up on time, attitude, exuberant prices ect had been her experience.
I haven't had to NEED major services. However, just this past weekend I was on the more affluent black side of town (SWATS if you will) and stopped at a Publix grocery store. I don't think I saw one non-black person, working the store or shopping in the store. It had to have been 9:15 pm. All I wanted was an adult beverage to bring to a gathering. Why did I wait in line for no shorter than 10 minutes? It's Saturday night for goodness sake. The line was backed up from checkout to people having to obstruct the walkway and trickle into the nearest isle. On a Saturday evening? You got two people working the register? Huh, there is no 10 items or less line? I've got to wait while Miss Jones n' dem unload their week's worth of groceries? That's called piss poor management.
I've never had this happen on the "other" side of town. Perhaps I need to write a letter, I think that's how mountains are moved. Perhaps it was a "one off" occurrence, but I'm not going to be so naive.
Do you patronize BOBs? How has your experience, generallly speaking, been?
*I'll save the naughty BOB question for another day*
Black Owned Business. More specifically, contractors or other BOBS that provide a service rather than a product. This morning while listening to the radio, the DJ said that she was DONE with BOB. Within the past month, she had needed about 5 projects done to keep her house from crumbling. She wanted to show support for black folks; but is now exasperated with the lack of quality service. Not showing up on time, attitude, exuberant prices ect had been her experience.
I haven't had to NEED major services. However, just this past weekend I was on the more affluent black side of town (SWATS if you will) and stopped at a Publix grocery store. I don't think I saw one non-black person, working the store or shopping in the store. It had to have been 9:15 pm. All I wanted was an adult beverage to bring to a gathering. Why did I wait in line for no shorter than 10 minutes? It's Saturday night for goodness sake. The line was backed up from checkout to people having to obstruct the walkway and trickle into the nearest isle. On a Saturday evening? You got two people working the register? Huh, there is no 10 items or less line? I've got to wait while Miss Jones n' dem unload their week's worth of groceries? That's called piss poor management.
I've never had this happen on the "other" side of town. Perhaps I need to write a letter, I think that's how mountains are moved. Perhaps it was a "one off" occurrence, but I'm not going to be so naive.
Do you patronize BOBs? How has your experience, generallly speaking, been?
*I'll save the naughty BOB question for another day*
8.11.2008
I'm tired but I can't go to bed: Men's Gymnastics & Swimming
OMG - the men's team KILT it. KILT. One arm swinging. Nailing EVERY landing. Their performances gave me CHILLS.
Phelps. Manimal.
Pommel Horse. 217 did something like this:
Phelps. Manimal.
Pommel Horse. 217 did something like this:
I love my moms...the past few texts as we watch the Olympics
Sunday
Moms: You should've been an Olympic gymnast
Moms: The cute China doll on the unparrallel bars. I can't believe she didn't hurt herself. And I would've been boo-hooing from pain and embarrassment!
Moms: Some of the American gymnasts need to work on their zits. Yeah - I said it!
Moms (re- Bush): What is wrong with that man?
Moms: How about that John Edwards? I bet he's a freak in bed.
Monday
Moms: For John Edwards, it was time for a change...LOL!
Me: It'd be more entertaining if they did synchronized diving naked.
Moms: ROFLMAO. Your brother doesn't find that funny. Lol
Me: This female commentator is ruthless!
Moms: I know! I wanna see what she looks like. I wanna see her dive.
Moms: You should've been an Olympic gymnast
Moms: The cute China doll on the unparrallel bars. I can't believe she didn't hurt herself. And I would've been boo-hooing from pain and embarrassment!
Moms: Some of the American gymnasts need to work on their zits. Yeah - I said it!
Moms (re- Bush): What is wrong with that man?
Moms: How about that John Edwards? I bet he's a freak in bed.
Monday
Moms: For John Edwards, it was time for a change...LOL!
Me: It'd be more entertaining if they did synchronized diving naked.
Moms: ROFLMAO. Your brother doesn't find that funny. Lol
Me: This female commentator is ruthless!
Moms: I know! I wanna see what she looks like. I wanna see her dive.
Gaming Geeks (Y'all are kinda sexy)
Can I just walk up into a store and buy a Wii? Are they on back order?
I've got a 64 inch television, which was a parting gift from an ex (he left it with me). I don't put it to good use. Hell, I don't even use the HD properties on it. I figure I need to start having football watching gatherings and Wii gaming gatherings.
*9:30 Random Thought. So I'm watching the Olympics. Thinking how much more entertaining some of these lame "sports" synchronized diving would be if the participants were butt naked. Then...I thought how fun would it be to play Wii naked? lol, don't worry... I'm just kidding. Kind of. Okay, not really. I need a significant other.*
I've got a 64 inch television, which was a parting gift from an ex (he left it with me). I don't put it to good use. Hell, I don't even use the HD properties on it. I figure I need to start having football watching gatherings and Wii gaming gatherings.
*9:30 Random Thought. So I'm watching the Olympics. Thinking how much more entertaining some of these lame "sports"
Dear TIH:
Woman, Bring Yo Ass To Atlanta!
Consider this your invitation!
You know how we get down!
*I promise no Sesame Street characters were harmed during this posting*
Consider this your invitation!
You know how we get down!
*I promise no Sesame Street characters were harmed during this posting*
8.10.2008
Double Standard: Enough Said.
BWHAHAHAHAH. That is soo disturbing in a funny type scary terrifying way.
Thanks to Babs...
This shall be a lazy Sunday. I'm trying to get the Babs Twist out of my system. Babs Twist...what is that you ask? It's her new signature drink, not to be confused with the slurricane; however, it has a similar effect. The drink even comes with its own dance: WHERE IS THE BREAD?
Last night was so much fun, new people, good people, attractive, intelligent people.
Highlights:
* I got serenaded by 4 gentlemen with a song apologizing for every 5 minute man experience I've ever encountered.
* I learned about the power of 3:
3 What you ask? Why a guy will have sex with a woman at least 3 times. Another question you might likely have...why is this written on a plate with 2 dollars? After somebody testafies...there is often times an offering. I think the men are collecting $$$ to build a new bedroom. (Bedroom Fund).
* Intern called bullshit on my 2008 vow of celibacy. It's only 4 more months, I can do it. And if a dude can't wait at LEAST 4 months...he ain't the one.
* Introduced strangers to the concept of a new drink. I shall not provide the title, there will be a party dedicated to the drink in the future.
* Laughed a LOT.
Last night was so much fun, new people, good people, attractive, intelligent people.
Highlights:
* I got serenaded by 4 gentlemen with a song apologizing for every 5 minute man experience I've ever encountered.
* I learned about the power of 3:
3 What you ask? Why a guy will have sex with a woman at least 3 times. Another question you might likely have...why is this written on a plate with 2 dollars? After somebody testafies...there is often times an offering. I think the men are collecting $$$ to build a new bedroom. (Bedroom Fund). * Intern called bullshit on my 2008 vow of celibacy. It's only 4 more months, I can do it. And if a dude can't wait at LEAST 4 months...he ain't the one.
* Introduced strangers to the concept of a new drink. I shall not provide the title, there will be a party dedicated to the drink in the future.
* Laughed a LOT.
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