6.21.2008
It's a blog thing, you wouldn't understand.
Lol - this is a reference to the fact that there was a joke that there needs to be a code amongst people in blog-world. I don't know if this holds true for everybody; however, I think there is a commonality amongst people that find/seek refuge in internet mediums.
At this time, I can't quite articulate what is comforting for me. Essentially, there are times, when I crave interaction without the action. Also, interaction via the internet is easily controlled. If somebody says something that you disagree with, you can debate, but you can also shut them off. And nobody's feelings get hurt. They are not vested in you, and you are not vested in them. You simply exchange ideas, but don't exchange emotion and/or feeling.
It's almost impossible to do this in person. Too many human elements come into play. On the nets, physical appearance rarely comes into play, you allow people to see you for who you are...and they are not distracted by the many imperfections that we all possess. So there is comfort. Ehh - I went WAYYY off topic. At least way off topic than what lead me to blog at this 2:09 am moment.
At this time, I can't quite articulate what is comforting for me. Essentially, there are times, when I crave interaction without the action. Also, interaction via the internet is easily controlled. If somebody says something that you disagree with, you can debate, but you can also shut them off. And nobody's feelings get hurt. They are not vested in you, and you are not vested in them. You simply exchange ideas, but don't exchange emotion and/or feeling.
It's almost impossible to do this in person. Too many human elements come into play. On the nets, physical appearance rarely comes into play, you allow people to see you for who you are...and they are not distracted by the many imperfections that we all possess. So there is comfort. Ehh - I went WAYYY off topic. At least way off topic than what lead me to blog at this 2:09 am moment.
6.20.2008
Tell 'Em Why You Mad...
1. There is no such thing as a secret and/or a confidant
2. Why is my cervix to the far right bottom? Where is the b*tch supposed to be?
Tell 'Em Why You Happy
1. Old Navy actually has some cute clothes!
2. Patience paid off, I bought this $80 dress for $30
2. Why is my cervix to the far right bottom? Where is the b*tch supposed to be?
Tell 'Em Why You Happy
1. Old Navy actually has some cute clothes!
2. Patience paid off, I bought this $80 dress for $30
6.19.2008
On: Global Warming
Are you surprised / shocked by the flooding in Iowa?
I wasn't AT ALL. Not even one little bit surprised.
Where did you think Lake Lanier went? Clearly, it made it's way to Iowa.
If there are severe droughts in one part of the world, TRUST that there will be severe flooding.
I wasn't AT ALL. Not even one little bit surprised.
Where did you think Lake Lanier went? Clearly, it made it's way to Iowa.
If there are severe droughts in one part of the world, TRUST that there will be severe flooding.
FINALLY - THEY STEPPED UP TO THE PLATE
Except it's still only on internet world. As we used to say in elementary school
TAKE THIS AND PASS IT ALONG
TAKE THIS AND PASS IT ALONG
6.17.2008
You can't have him
And you can't have my unborn son or daughter either.
Can he have yours? Does he have yours?
In other news: Baracknophobia as defined by Jon Stewart!
R. Kelly Not Guilty Celebration Party!!!!
2NITE @ CHUCK E CHEESE
7pm - Until
Girls Free B4 9 w/ high school ID...
No Parents Please
After party hosted by Michael Jackson!!!!
7pm - Until
Girls Free B4 9 w/ high school ID...
No Parents Please
After party hosted by Michael Jackson!!!!
6.16.2008
So real talk...which will prolly go ignored, but hey I'll throw it out there.
For those of you who have gone to a psychologist/psychiatrist - what was the trigger that convinced you to go?
2008 Predictions
I'm going to predict that Osama Bin Laden will be found within 10 days of election day...by Bush himself personally, Chuck Norris style. Mark my words...and then pay me when I'm right.
6.15.2008
What are you thankful to your father for?
So my favorite message board - I threw this question out. The responses are rather surprising... (feel free to leave your own perspective in the comments)
1. nothing, my biological didn't bother
1a. answer I expect from 80% of Black folk
1b. You kinda high balled it, it's ONLY 70% (SunFresh)
2. Being good lookin
3. All he ever asked was that I set a goal and put in all the work I could.
4. my father is more like a little brother
5. so much
6. i could write a book about my dad but basically i love him
7. not a damn thing
8. for being there to provide a 2 earner income, thus statistically making it much more likely that I would graduate from
high school and not end up in prison/jail
9. For being a perfect example of everything a father and husband should be. Just about everything I know and have learned about being a great dad and a great husband I learned from the example put forth by my father
10. for teaching me to be frugal and make good decisions about money"
11. leaving me the hell alone...until this month
12. getting me the FUCK away from my mother
13. For reconciling with my Mother after literally 22 years of beef. They never got divorced because their respective piety didn't allow for that, but they would go months under the same roof without speaking to each other....well, last week they officially reconciled and are going to counseling.
14. For letting me cry when i needed to
15. for making me a fighter
16. He made me feel special and valuable
17, For caring when don't nobody else care.
18. so its father's day?
19. for encouraging me to be the best person i can be.
20. I ALWAYS felt loved by my father....
21. for showing me what it looks like
22. he put real fear in me of disrespecting seniority...not the most normal/happy of upbringings, but he did the best he knew how to and we're on okay terms these days
23. for signin those adoption papers
24. soo much,but to make it simple,I'm thankful that I know what to expect in a husband and and I'm thankful that he continually went/and still goes out of his way to make sure I have the best life possible.
25. 1) education 2) travel the world 3) pursue inner happiness
26. for liking the Simpsons
27. child support payments never came late
28. Fuck you, dad
AS for my thoughts on today. My thanks are all practical, as my father is a practical dude. The following song really doesn't summarize how I feel; although I wish it did.
Or if you are hurting today because your mother was the only father you knew, this song captures the pain pretty accurately:
If you don't have a father...embrace him as your father:
1. nothing, my biological didn't bother
1a. answer I expect from 80% of Black folk
1b. You kinda high balled it, it's ONLY 70% (SunFresh)
2. Being good lookin
3. All he ever asked was that I set a goal and put in all the work I could.
4. my father is more like a little brother
5. so much
6. i could write a book about my dad but basically i love him
7. not a damn thing
8. for being there to provide a 2 earner income, thus statistically making it much more likely that I would graduate from
high school and not end up in prison/jail
9. For being a perfect example of everything a father and husband should be. Just about everything I know and have learned about being a great dad and a great husband I learned from the example put forth by my father
10. for teaching me to be frugal and make good decisions about money"
11. leaving me the hell alone...until this month
12. getting me the FUCK away from my mother
13. For reconciling with my Mother after literally 22 years of beef. They never got divorced because their respective piety didn't allow for that, but they would go months under the same roof without speaking to each other....well, last week they officially reconciled and are going to counseling.
14. For letting me cry when i needed to
15. for making me a fighter
16. He made me feel special and valuable
17, For caring when don't nobody else care.
18. so its father's day?
19. for encouraging me to be the best person i can be.
20. I ALWAYS felt loved by my father....
21. for showing me what it looks like
22. he put real fear in me of disrespecting seniority...not the most normal/happy of upbringings, but he did the best he knew how to and we're on okay terms these days
23. for signin those adoption papers
24. soo much,but to make it simple,I'm thankful that I know what to expect in a husband and and I'm thankful that he continually went/and still goes out of his way to make sure I have the best life possible.
25. 1) education 2) travel the world 3) pursue inner happiness
26. for liking the Simpsons
27. child support payments never came late
28. Fuck you, dad
AS for my thoughts on today. My thanks are all practical, as my father is a practical dude. The following song really doesn't summarize how I feel; although I wish it did.
Or if you are hurting today because your mother was the only father you knew, this song captures the pain pretty accurately:
If you don't have a father...embrace him as your father:
Admission
I can be brash, I can be a bitch. For example, just the other night while out at a bar/lounge, this chic asked to put out a cigarette butt at my table. My response upon her puffing a few times before she put it out...Ummm, that's bad for your health, but more importantly mine.
At times, I have offensive thoughts and have reckless delivery of them. Especially on the internet where there are no faces to receive the thoughts...just screen names and or lurkers. One thing, I don't apologize for my thoughts, but I have got to be mindful of the delivery.
Lol - geez I'll probably end up being an ornery old lady. The type that says whatever comes to mind and I'll give you a daring look to respond to a frail lil' 80 year old lady.
errr okey dokey. apologies...I mean no harm.
At times, I have offensive thoughts and have reckless delivery of them. Especially on the internet where there are no faces to receive the thoughts...just screen names and or lurkers. One thing, I don't apologize for my thoughts, but I have got to be mindful of the delivery.
Lol - geez I'll probably end up being an ornery old lady. The type that says whatever comes to mind and I'll give you a daring look to respond to a frail lil' 80 year old lady.
errr okey dokey. apologies...I mean no harm.
Some stuff never changes
I find too much comfort in the internet at times. But I learn a lot from people and get alternative perspectives because strangers are much more willing to swap information than people you casually meet out and about. So there is a certain realism you get. Not saying that in real life people lie, but you're more likely to have a controversial conversation via the net than within the first couple of meetings with a person.
So one of my internet buddies hits me on IM - he was about to head out to his lady friend's house for the evening. Below is the following convo:
Buddy: my parents hate my guts for it...cuz of the whole skin color thing
SunFresh: thats a shame, so they're voting mccain?
Buddy: During the primary, my mom said only this. "you know who to vote for" which = clinton
SunFresh: i mean talkin politics people are entitled to their opinions; but, that's a sad reality tho' that they're tripping over who you fancy
Buddy: i mean like, my parents are pissed about the color of her skin...and that's it.
SunFresh: I can imagine that it is tough.
Buddy: how did you handle that?
SunFresh: You mean dating a white guy?
Buddy: yeah...or am i taking a guess
SunFresh: Lol, the last time I dated a white guy was middle school, i've been in the south so long
Buddy: i so don't believe you lol
SunFresh: they don't appraoch me, it's very divided down here; however, i'm open to it
Buddy: but what about when you went to PWI University?
SunFresh: still very divided
Buddy: meh...i thought my university was still like that when i met my girl
SunFresh: they'd flirt, but there was no seriousness to it
Buddy: i mean, if, lets say i saw you out. i'd've stepped to you and felt like there was no problem with it.
SunFresh: Lol, thanks. It's messed up but even my middle school boyfriend, who was white said that his mother was on some, "if you have children with this girl, our blood-line..."
Buddy: OMG....yo.....that's EXACTLY what i'm hearing
In case you didn't quite follow that...My buddy is a white guy that is crazy about a black woman. His parents pretty much reject him because he is in love with a black woman and are concerned that their blood line will be "ruined" (if you will) if he marries and has children with her. SERIOUSLY? I mean really, what is the fear that his parents hold? That their grandchildren won't be entitled to certain things? Might deal with discrimination? And really, I want to be a fly on the wall when the parent is having this conversation with their sun. Do they beat around the bush and imply that they are concerned about having a bi-racial grandchild or do they flat out say...we'd like to preserve the Aryan nation, do not taint the purity. Either way how selfish!
It's amazing that we can be on the brink of having a bi-racial president when there are people that think like this.
So one of my internet buddies hits me on IM - he was about to head out to his lady friend's house for the evening. Below is the following convo:
Buddy: my parents hate my guts for it...cuz of the whole skin color thing
SunFresh: thats a shame, so they're voting mccain?
Buddy: During the primary, my mom said only this. "you know who to vote for" which = clinton
SunFresh: i mean talkin politics people are entitled to their opinions; but, that's a sad reality tho' that they're tripping over who you fancy
Buddy: i mean like, my parents are pissed about the color of her skin...and that's it.
SunFresh: I can imagine that it is tough.
Buddy: how did you handle that?
SunFresh: You mean dating a white guy?
Buddy: yeah...or am i taking a guess
SunFresh: Lol, the last time I dated a white guy was middle school, i've been in the south so long
Buddy: i so don't believe you lol
SunFresh: they don't appraoch me, it's very divided down here; however, i'm open to it
Buddy: but what about when you went to PWI University?
SunFresh: still very divided
Buddy: meh...i thought my university was still like that when i met my girl
SunFresh: they'd flirt, but there was no seriousness to it
Buddy: i mean, if, lets say i saw you out. i'd've stepped to you and felt like there was no problem with it.
SunFresh: Lol, thanks. It's messed up but even my middle school boyfriend, who was white said that his mother was on some, "if you have children with this girl, our blood-line..."
Buddy: OMG....yo.....that's EXACTLY what i'm hearing
In case you didn't quite follow that...My buddy is a white guy that is crazy about a black woman. His parents pretty much reject him because he is in love with a black woman and are concerned that their blood line will be "ruined" (if you will) if he marries and has children with her. SERIOUSLY? I mean really, what is the fear that his parents hold? That their grandchildren won't be entitled to certain things? Might deal with discrimination? And really, I want to be a fly on the wall when the parent is having this conversation with their sun. Do they beat around the bush and imply that they are concerned about having a bi-racial grandchild or do they flat out say...we'd like to preserve the Aryan nation, do not taint the purity. Either way how selfish!
It's amazing that we can be on the brink of having a bi-racial president when there are people that think like this.
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