Bikini Wax
So I called to make an appointment to get a wax. My waxonista is on vacation, so I'm getting a new person for the occassion. This is like having sex the first time with somebody new. I'm nervous.
Hair
As a woman, I've probably spent thousands over my lifetime on the perfect concoction of hair care products. I've slipped into the boobie trap in which the more you pay the better your hair looks.
Well, it appears that everything comes full circle.
I started out on Pan "Don't hate me because I'm beautifl," Tene.
Then I tried Motions - which ended up weighing down my hair.
Next...for a long time and even now sometimes Paul Mitchell.
But I got cheap recently and started using Pantene again. My hair shines like never before.
Throwback for your enjoyment:
5.23.2008
5.22.2008
I'm bad at Chess, and that is OK with me.
With all this talk about dating being cut n' dry easy. If you're just not into him or he's just not into you ...move on. Most of this from single people. I developed a rule within the past 2 years...to primarily take advice from married people, or people in successful committed relationships. I don't think relationships are easy and I certainly think that there is an element of patience that people need to have on so many levels. Nobody is perfect, timing is not always right etc...so to cut somebody off at the knee-cap after the first woopah is rather rash...IMO.
With that being said, the other day this guy at work sparked up a brief conversation. We exchanged names, he sent an e-mail to ask me out to lunch. I wasn't head over heels attracted to him, but what the heck, why not go out with him? So we just got back from our lunch date and I think his personality is really dope. We have similar elitist tendencies (it's not that deep - we're school snobs) and have similar outlooks on dating in ATL, education, politics etc. I found it funny that he visibly attempted to search for politically correct things to say; however, I prefer to skip over the facade of who we assume will impress the other person. So I encouraged him to stop searching for "the right word," and say what came to mind. I feel like I could've talked to him all afternoon. I can't sit here and say that I started fantasizing about naughty things while talking to him...but I figure I'll give it a few more dates before I push him completely into the friend bucket. So after the date he sametimes me and we have the following convo:
SunFresh: I definitely had a good time at lunch...thank you again. Decent food :-)~ Good conversation!
FIGO: Thanks...i thoroughly enjoyed myself. It's refreshing to finally meet someone u can sit with for an hour and not immediately put them in the 'no' category.
SunFresh: lol - I hear that! Perhaps we can catch up before you head out of country or when you get back
FIGO: wow SunFresh...ur right to the point...and that i definitely like. takes all the pressure off of me! LOL
SunFresh: let's just say I'm not good at Chess, even worse at the game of "dating" I don't really try to calcluate the next move
FIGO: yeah, i call it shooting from the hip. it works wonders in this dating thing....as i'm slowly learning. and yes, i would love to get together again....b4 i go.
We made plans to go before he flies out of country for work...
SunFresh sounds good to me! SunFresh phone (xxx-xxx-xxxx). What is your # so that I don't ignore the call when it pops up lol
FIGO: geez, i couldnt type fast enough to ask!
SunFresh: wow - maybe i should attempt to be a bit more coy
FIGO: NO! if u only knew. be exactly like u r.
A few observations...he's 35 (*sigh* why do I attract older men?). He's got his MBA from a top 20, travels extensively. He alluded to the fact that he's seeking more stability in his life. He wonders why I'm single b/c he said that I'm attractive and he's sure that guys approach me all the time (true..but quantity < quality). I gather that he's not over-the top confident and recognizes that he can attract women with his personality rather than being that super-flashy dude.
With that being said, the other day this guy at work sparked up a brief conversation. We exchanged names, he sent an e-mail to ask me out to lunch. I wasn't head over heels attracted to him, but what the heck, why not go out with him? So we just got back from our lunch date and I think his personality is really dope. We have similar elitist tendencies (it's not that deep - we're school snobs) and have similar outlooks on dating in ATL, education, politics etc. I found it funny that he visibly attempted to search for politically correct things to say; however, I prefer to skip over the facade of who we assume will impress the other person. So I encouraged him to stop searching for "the right word," and say what came to mind. I feel like I could've talked to him all afternoon. I can't sit here and say that I started fantasizing about naughty things while talking to him...but I figure I'll give it a few more dates before I push him completely into the friend bucket. So after the date he sametimes me and we have the following convo:
SunFresh: I definitely had a good time at lunch...thank you again. Decent food :-)~ Good conversation!
FIGO: Thanks...i thoroughly enjoyed myself. It's refreshing to finally meet someone u can sit with for an hour and not immediately put them in the 'no' category.
SunFresh: lol - I hear that! Perhaps we can catch up before you head out of country or when you get back
FIGO: wow SunFresh...ur right to the point...and that i definitely like. takes all the pressure off of me! LOL
SunFresh: let's just say I'm not good at Chess, even worse at the game of "dating" I don't really try to calcluate the next move
FIGO: yeah, i call it shooting from the hip. it works wonders in this dating thing....as i'm slowly learning. and yes, i would love to get together again....b4 i go.
We made plans to go before he flies out of country for work...
SunFresh sounds good to me! SunFresh phone (xxx-xxx-xxxx). What is your # so that I don't ignore the call when it pops up lol
FIGO: geez, i couldnt type fast enough to ask!
SunFresh: wow - maybe i should attempt to be a bit more coy
FIGO: NO! if u only knew. be exactly like u r.
A few observations...he's 35 (*sigh* why do I attract older men?). He's got his MBA from a top 20, travels extensively. He alluded to the fact that he's seeking more stability in his life. He wonders why I'm single b/c he said that I'm attractive and he's sure that guys approach me all the time (true..but quantity < quality). I gather that he's not over-the top confident and recognizes that he can attract women with his personality rather than being that super-flashy dude.
5.21.2008
Honor, Integrity and Respect
Words of the week. We all get the textbook definition of them; however, it's much harder to practice than to define at times.
I can honestly say that I've been struggling with these qualities lately. Not because I'm a base or bad person, but because I'm non-confrontational and have a desire to go with the flow. Plus I tend to vent on these here internets...which at times gives you false sense of privacy amongst strangers. As they say at disney..it's a small world after all.
There are two recent situations in which I avoided and/or did not express my true thoughts (thus not demonstrating honor, integrity and respect).
So upon self-epiphanies...the logical next step is to move away from what you feel you are lacking. First question...why am I non-confrontational and/or like to go with the flow?
At times I associate these qualities with "bitchiness." For example, if you are doing something that I don't like, but isn't detrimental to me or others, rather than telling you, I'll just avoid you. I could call you out for this "thing" that you're doing, but I might feel like I'm being -nit-picky and bitchy.
Often times the right decisions/actions don't FEEL good. For example, instead telling you what I didn't care for but wasn't detrimental, I might vent to another person, because I find relief in getting it off my chest.
Often times I perceive that the assumed consequences of confrontation are worse than non-confrontation. For example if I think telling you XYZ might damage or distort an otherwise comfortable situation, I might opt to do nothing.
But ohhh the conundrum - sometimes it's hard to confront people you don't care much for...like at work, ditzy chic did a LOT of annoying stuff, but it took a VERY drastic situation for me to confront her. I would've let her slide on quite a bit b/c while it's annoying it doesn't affect my working situation and my job values her. So instead I just avoid her and try to distance. While this situation isn't quite what I'm having my epiphany over - it's very representative of the situations that got me to this epiphany.
And don't think your immune. We all have times when we get out of line...but it's more about how you recognize your wrong and go about making a right.
Ehh - this post was more for me to really think things out.
I can honestly say that I've been struggling with these qualities lately. Not because I'm a base or bad person, but because I'm non-confrontational and have a desire to go with the flow. Plus I tend to vent on these here internets...which at times gives you false sense of privacy amongst strangers. As they say at disney..it's a small world after all.
There are two recent situations in which I avoided and/or did not express my true thoughts (thus not demonstrating honor, integrity and respect).
So upon self-epiphanies...the logical next step is to move away from what you feel you are lacking. First question...why am I non-confrontational and/or like to go with the flow?
At times I associate these qualities with "bitchiness." For example, if you are doing something that I don't like, but isn't detrimental to me or others, rather than telling you, I'll just avoid you. I could call you out for this "thing" that you're doing, but I might feel like I'm being -nit-picky and bitchy.
Often times the right decisions/actions don't FEEL good. For example, instead telling you what I didn't care for but wasn't detrimental, I might vent to another person, because I find relief in getting it off my chest.
Often times I perceive that the assumed consequences of confrontation are worse than non-confrontation. For example if I think telling you XYZ might damage or distort an otherwise comfortable situation, I might opt to do nothing.
But ohhh the conundrum - sometimes it's hard to confront people you don't care much for...like at work, ditzy chic did a LOT of annoying stuff, but it took a VERY drastic situation for me to confront her. I would've let her slide on quite a bit b/c while it's annoying it doesn't affect my working situation and my job values her. So instead I just avoid her and try to distance. While this situation isn't quite what I'm having my epiphany over - it's very representative of the situations that got me to this epiphany.
And don't think your immune. We all have times when we get out of line...but it's more about how you recognize your wrong and go about making a right.
Ehh - this post was more for me to really think things out.
Menz...
To capture my love life, or lack thereof...
Cooled things off with two-year man. We're still friends, that's just it...we work best as friends. Oh - and I'm going to the wedding rehearsal and wedding with him. Hopefully I can convince him to go to MJQ afterward, even though that place isn't his style.
Had a vacationship encounter with a fellow that has potential. However, he's made it pretty clear that since he just moved to ATL, he's content in being an attractive, tall, educated guy with good money: READ - Women are doing stupid shit to get his attention and I don't really care to get on their level.
Met a random dude in the hall Monday morning at work. We had a brief introduction and I get a random e-mail from him. First e-mail is to confirm that he had the right person. I had half the mind to say no...but I said yes. Second e-mail was to ask me to lunch. Really? Picking up women in work in such a direct, forward manner. Is that PC? Is that okay? He's not in my group and I would never cross paths with him professionally.
Ran into dude @ work that I previously had a semi-crush on. A birdie told me that he's not so-much into women. Upon this second meeting, I don't understand why I didn't pick that up the first couple of times that I saw him.
Cooled things off with two-year man. We're still friends, that's just it...we work best as friends. Oh - and I'm going to the wedding rehearsal and wedding with him. Hopefully I can convince him to go to MJQ afterward, even though that place isn't his style.
Had a vacationship encounter with a fellow that has potential. However, he's made it pretty clear that since he just moved to ATL, he's content in being an attractive, tall, educated guy with good money: READ - Women are doing stupid shit to get his attention and I don't really care to get on their level.
Met a random dude in the hall Monday morning at work. We had a brief introduction and I get a random e-mail from him. First e-mail is to confirm that he had the right person. I had half the mind to say no...but I said yes. Second e-mail was to ask me to lunch. Really? Picking up women in work in such a direct, forward manner. Is that PC? Is that okay? He's not in my group and I would never cross paths with him professionally.
Ran into dude @ work that I previously had a semi-crush on. A birdie told me that he's not so-much into women. Upon this second meeting, I don't understand why I didn't pick that up the first couple of times that I saw him.
5.20.2008
5.19.2008
Rehearsal Dinner vs. Black Thought
First, if you know who Black Thought is you gained 2 cool points in my book. I'm an Avid "The Roots," fan. Such the fan that I was planning on going to see ?love and Black Thought do a set at MJQ on Friday night. Apparently ?love is going to DJ and play some songs off of the new album. Not quite a concert, but quite awesome. Plus I have an ugly man crush on Black Thought.
Well, the ex and I were just casually talking and he invites me to his brother's wedding rehearsal dinner...and the wedding. I said yes b/c I didn't want to say no. But now I'm kinda freaked out. I wouldn't mind hanging out with him...but a family wedding. It is so intimate and personal. I am already feeling awkward. *bitch relax*.
My favorite The Roots song
Most relevant lines...
Your first impression might be I'm a asshole
Or say I'm sometimey and give people a hassle
Or try to suntouch and put the heat in the capsule
Dog I'm far deeper than that though; I get in the zone
Recognize I'm a rolling stone
No time to lollygag or lounge with scaliwags
Well, the ex and I were just casually talking and he invites me to his brother's wedding rehearsal dinner...and the wedding. I said yes b/c I didn't want to say no. But now I'm kinda freaked out. I wouldn't mind hanging out with him...but a family wedding. It is so intimate and personal. I am already feeling awkward. *bitch relax*.
My favorite The Roots song
Most relevant lines...
Your first impression might be I'm a asshole
Or say I'm sometimey and give people a hassle
Or try to suntouch and put the heat in the capsule
Dog I'm far deeper than that though; I get in the zone
Recognize I'm a rolling stone
No time to lollygag or lounge with scaliwags
5.18.2008
God vs. Tire
Ladies...
say you were in the beginning stages of kicking it with a fellow. chemistry was there, you got along.
well your girlfriend's car gets a flat tire on the street that he lives on, but you're with her and you two would feel more comfortable if a man could either stay with you while AAA came or changed the tire himself. You give him a call asking for his help and he says, "nope, I'm going to church." He doesn't offer any alternatives.
Do you continue to date him?
My take on it...going to church is practice, helping a person out is the game. He's about to be put on the bench...permanently.
say you were in the beginning stages of kicking it with a fellow. chemistry was there, you got along.
well your girlfriend's car gets a flat tire on the street that he lives on, but you're with her and you two would feel more comfortable if a man could either stay with you while AAA came or changed the tire himself. You give him a call asking for his help and he says, "nope, I'm going to church." He doesn't offer any alternatives.
Do you continue to date him?
My take on it...going to church is practice, helping a person out is the game. He's about to be put on the bench...permanently.
Ovaries vs. Brain
I'm contemplating going back to school to get an MBA. How did I come to this conclusion? I'm 27 and have no prospects for a husband which will lead to a child...AKA: The nice little ferry tale life that is sold to you from birth until the present.
So I'm wondering if a B-School personal statement could go something like this: I'm not using my ovaries, so as an alternative, I'm going to use my brain.
I want another accomplishment by the time that I'm 30. If I enroll in the 2009 year, I'll graduate 2 months after my 30th. Then I'll be on my way to making 6 figures. I remember when my first degree was conferred upon me - it was such an overwhelmingly magnificent feeling. I took SO much pride in it. I want that feeling again. I've lost stamina and B-School will reenergize me.
So I'm wondering if a B-School personal statement could go something like this: I'm not using my ovaries, so as an alternative, I'm going to use my brain.
I want another accomplishment by the time that I'm 30. If I enroll in the 2009 year, I'll graduate 2 months after my 30th. Then I'll be on my way to making 6 figures. I remember when my first degree was conferred upon me - it was such an overwhelmingly magnificent feeling. I took SO much pride in it. I want that feeling again. I've lost stamina and B-School will reenergize me.
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