In light of the fact that several bans on gay marriage have passed, please enlighten me as to why people would want to amend a state constitution to prohibit same-sex marriage.
State and Church are separate. So while you may be opposed to gay marriage on a religious basis why would you take away somebody's right/priviledge to marry?
Another argument I might hear is in regards to parenting. As if you need a study to prove what I find obvious...there are studies providing evidence that same-sex couples make good parents (no better or worse than hetero couples). The other argument is that it takes a man and a woman to raise a child. Umm, I'll ignore the obvious stats on divorce and children out of wedlock, but I'm aware that single parent's also have the right to adopt. Under the "a child needs a man and woman" argument, how would a same-sex adoption differ from a single parent adoption? In either case, 'the other' sex is missing from the equation.
I will jump on a limb, and this might not be the case for everybody, but usually people that are against same-sex marriage are also against abortion. At least this applies to the far right republican base. So....if abortion was banned and more children ended up in the foster care system, do you REALLY believe that the children fare better in state care (for which they complain about paying taxes or spreading the wealth) than in a home with loving parents?
I take offense to the mindset of a person that would vote for a ban on same-sex marriage. There are couples that have been in loving committed relationships. One man I know is the one of the most committed people to social endeavors, he's an advocate for animal rights, cancer, AIDS/HIV awareness ect....AND he's loved his significant other, who happens to be a man, for a long time. His character is impeccable. I truly respect and admire him...and would only want him to have protection to LOVE. Who is anybody to judge people, especially when they are actively seeking a better world? Why inflict pain upon a couple when all they do in return is try to LOVE?
I once had to really challenge a friend regarding his biggotted view. His boss had been in a committed relationship with a man for 15 years. I said, "how would you think that their love is wrong? They have supported each other for 15 years. You've been divorced once...should I assume that you don't deserve a loving committed relationship because you didn't succeed at your first one?" (yes that's a low blow). But I really challenged him to see the how real their love was and question why he would deny that love to anybody.
I am REALLY trying HARD to jump in the mind of a person that would vote for a ban on gay marriage, but I'm failing. While I wouldn't be able to agree, at least I could have perspective.
What am I missing?
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Since you asked, the Western world made a quite a shift in the past 40 years regarding the way homosexuality is perceived. A lot of people are still strongly repelled by seeing it or even thinking about what two same-sex individuals do in bed. The main three religions also passed down the belief that it is sinful and abhorrent to God. Between the two, there are many who will put up a helluva fight to not make gay marriage legal. They feel it their moral obligation.
I personally have no problem with gayness and strongly suspect it's determined at conception and is as common as left-handedness.
I can't help you. I don't have a problem with two people accepting full responsibility for each other through marriage. I believe everyone should have the opportunity to have the benefits of marriage.
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