MyGallons.Com allows you to pre-pay for gas and essentially lock that rate in over a period of time. It's honored at several respected gas stations. There is an annual fee; however, if you are risk adverse like me, you like to know how much you are paying up front.
Just though you all should know as an option.
7.03.2008
Question - What do you know about the Laws of Attraction?
I had a friend describe it to me about a year ago. It sounded like crazy talk. But then she told me yesterday that sometimes I'm negative. For example, she asserted that at age 26 she'd like to own her home (wheter that be a condo / single family / townhouse ect). But, she's now 24 is back in school, living in LA and in her desired industry people start off making $30k-$40k. Instead of just saying, go for it; I challenged as to why she had this goal. It made sense when she was making $50k+ living in ATL and had the support of her peers who all owned property by age 26. I felt like she used as a standard. Which is great if her path was going to be similar to ours. I pointed all this out to her, and she felt like I was pushing negativity her way. IMO, as a risk adverse person, I was pushing reality on her.
Then she went into the Laws of Attraction concept. Instead of saying, "I'd like to own a house at age 26, despite the cost of living in LA and my piss poor salary," she'd say, "When I own my house at age 26."
So what I'm really chewing on right now is am I negative, or do I infuse my decision making with realities. She knows that if she wants practical advise, she comes to me. When she wants "just do it," advice, I might not be the one. I'll encourage and support her either way; however, I'm there to ask, "how will you eat if all your $ is invested in real estate?"
Question - do you prescribe to the Laws of Attraction? If so, how has this changed your beliefs, life, actions, mindset?
Then she went into the Laws of Attraction concept. Instead of saying, "I'd like to own a house at age 26, despite the cost of living in LA and my piss poor salary," she'd say, "When I own my house at age 26."
So what I'm really chewing on right now is am I negative, or do I infuse my decision making with realities. She knows that if she wants practical advise, she comes to me. When she wants "just do it," advice, I might not be the one. I'll encourage and support her either way; however, I'm there to ask, "how will you eat if all your $ is invested in real estate?"
Question - do you prescribe to the Laws of Attraction? If so, how has this changed your beliefs, life, actions, mindset?
Confession #2
Today is the first day that I contributed to the Obama Campaign, financially. What made me do it? A belief that he can really, really win. And I'm not going to lie, hearing Warren Buffett's remarks on Obama also inspired me.
For the longest time, I had this assumption that all upity older white folks were blind republicans. For instance, my friend made a joke that for all she knows, Warren Buffett could've been John McCain's older brother. So I was so shocked when I heard that he was a supporter of Obama. *Gasp* He truly believes that he should be taxed more than the janitor / teacher / nurse / accountant / lawyer / middle class American.
Let's be real, republicans are in practice are just as "big government," as democrats. So given institutionalized dependency on the government, the real quesiton, as Buffett so eloquently put it, is who funds the government.
Rich republicans are screaming bloody murder somebody is going to raise taxes! If you are making a bunch of money, what is that extra $1 going to do for you? Essentially nothing but feed your greed for more money. Like does the capital gains tax really make sense to be so low? I understand there is an incentive to invest; however, REALLY you get taxed less for doing absolutely NO work than you do on your regular salary, for which you have to put in hours to earn. In having a discussion with my unlikely democrat friend (he's a white, upper class male from Alabama); he pointed out that the motivation for republicans when it comes to taxes is surrounded by the carnal sin of greed.
Nevermind that I'm anti-gun. This new ruling on the second Amendment is asinine. Gun crazy people are now beating their chest asserting that they should have the right to carry concealed weapons into airports. Umm - sorry Mr. NRA, because this is America, the terrorists that has been a law abiding citizen thus far can take a Gun into the airport too.
Nevermind that I'm pro choice. And let's be real, republican men are too. Given that cheating is a common occurrence - imagine the # of illegitimate children of congressmen that would be roaming the earth if Roe vs. Wade is overturned. On a serious note, it's a woman's choice. I don't think it should be birth control; however, there are times when you are dealt a hand of cards that you don't know how to play.
For the longest time, I had this assumption that all upity older white folks were blind republicans. For instance, my friend made a joke that for all she knows, Warren Buffett could've been John McCain's older brother. So I was so shocked when I heard that he was a supporter of Obama. *Gasp* He truly believes that he should be taxed more than the janitor / teacher / nurse / accountant / lawyer / middle class American.
Let's be real, republicans are in practice are just as "big government," as democrats. So given institutionalized dependency on the government, the real quesiton, as Buffett so eloquently put it, is who funds the government.
Rich republicans are screaming bloody murder somebody is going to raise taxes! If you are making a bunch of money, what is that extra $1 going to do for you? Essentially nothing but feed your greed for more money. Like does the capital gains tax really make sense to be so low? I understand there is an incentive to invest; however, REALLY you get taxed less for doing absolutely NO work than you do on your regular salary, for which you have to put in hours to earn. In having a discussion with my unlikely democrat friend (he's a white, upper class male from Alabama); he pointed out that the motivation for republicans when it comes to taxes is surrounded by the carnal sin of greed.
Nevermind that I'm anti-gun. This new ruling on the second Amendment is asinine. Gun crazy people are now beating their chest asserting that they should have the right to carry concealed weapons into airports. Umm - sorry Mr. NRA, because this is America, the terrorists that has been a law abiding citizen thus far can take a Gun into the airport too.
Nevermind that I'm pro choice. And let's be real, republican men are too. Given that cheating is a common occurrence - imagine the # of illegitimate children of congressmen that would be roaming the earth if Roe vs. Wade is overturned. On a serious note, it's a woman's choice. I don't think it should be birth control; however, there are times when you are dealt a hand of cards that you don't know how to play.
7.02.2008
Confession
I'll expound upon this later. But quite frankly, I'm pretty anti-feminist. Not that I think that women shouldn't vote, but I do think that as we move into the work-world, we become less dependent on men, and less nurturing to children.
You can't possibly be *that* mother attending every recital, game ect if you are Ms. Executive who has an important deadline to meet every other week. You can't be the wife who is attentive when you come home after your husband and are already aggrivated from dealing with stingy ass men all day long.
Not that it can't be done. But it'd take an extra-ordinary Company and an extra-ordinary woman with extra-ordinary circumstances. For the common folks, it really is a continuum. And quite frankly, if we are to continue raising good people...somebody has to be nurturing our youth.
Edit #1: When I say Ms. Executive; I'm referring to a C-level person and/or a real mover/shaker in a Company. My background is primarily financial; so I'm not sure if other industries within large Company's work crazy hours (for example, I don't know what the hours are for VP-HR, General Counsel, VP-Marketing). I'm not talking to the Ms. Worker who works a 9-5 (give or take a few hours and crazy hours once in a blue moon). I'd expect that before you met dude you had to hold down a job so that you could shelter/feed/entertain yourself. But say I got married right now and had to take about 2 years off between having two kids. I would be okay with my status / income not growing over that 2 year period and being able to have flexible hours to attend to my childrens' needs first and my job/career's needs second. I've seen one too many women in high power positions put work first and then family. They are very successful women in terms of their career. However, that's not how I define success for me, as a woman. I can honestly say that I don't hold men to that same standard because I saw what my mom and dad did to support their family. He worked longer hours and because of it, got more recognition at work and excelled. He was successful in his role as my father because he brought home the extra $ that allowed me to participate in leagues ect, which my mother drove me to. Make sense? It's late. lol
You can't possibly be *that* mother attending every recital, game ect if you are Ms. Executive who has an important deadline to meet every other week. You can't be the wife who is attentive when you come home after your husband and are already aggrivated from dealing with stingy ass men all day long.
Not that it can't be done. But it'd take an extra-ordinary Company and an extra-ordinary woman with extra-ordinary circumstances. For the common folks, it really is a continuum. And quite frankly, if we are to continue raising good people...somebody has to be nurturing our youth.
Edit #1: When I say Ms. Executive; I'm referring to a C-level person and/or a real mover/shaker in a Company. My background is primarily financial; so I'm not sure if other industries within large Company's work crazy hours (for example, I don't know what the hours are for VP-HR, General Counsel, VP-Marketing). I'm not talking to the Ms. Worker who works a 9-5 (give or take a few hours and crazy hours once in a blue moon). I'd expect that before you met dude you had to hold down a job so that you could shelter/feed/entertain yourself. But say I got married right now and had to take about 2 years off between having two kids. I would be okay with my status / income not growing over that 2 year period and being able to have flexible hours to attend to my childrens' needs first and my job/career's needs second. I've seen one too many women in high power positions put work first and then family. They are very successful women in terms of their career. However, that's not how I define success for me, as a woman. I can honestly say that I don't hold men to that same standard because I saw what my mom and dad did to support their family. He worked longer hours and because of it, got more recognition at work and excelled. He was successful in his role as my father because he brought home the extra $ that allowed me to participate in leagues ect, which my mother drove me to. Make sense? It's late. lol
I heard Warren Buffett speak live today!!!!!
The plantation is pretty awesome at times. Today Warren Buffett came in to address random questions. I didn't bring paper, but I brought pen and ended up taking notes on my hand. He was *that* on point. So here are some take aways:
A woman asked, "I'm 27, you're 77. What advice could you give to me as I enter my 27th year?" Essentially Warren Buffett said that in your early stages of life you can improve upon yourself by being a better communicator. Essentially he indicated that's what seperates a regular person from an extradinary person. We all have the potential to be awesome; however, we must know how to communicate these personal qualities to the world.
Surprisingly, he also indicated that a MAJOR decision of his in life was marriage and who he selected as a spouse. Okay, take a step back. THE RICHEST MAN IN THE WORLD could've answered anything and he said one of his most important / valued decisions was who he married. He marreid at age 20 or 21 and his wife was 19. Another woman put herself on blast and asked as a wife how to best be supportive if you are married to a risk taker. He said that his wife never questioned how much money he would bring home. The only thing she was concerned about is that he was happy doing what he does. That is amazing, and even I fall short of being *that* woman. But at the same time, I think as a woman, we must only have comfort if our man has a passion for what he does and is good at it.
He also indicated that his Heros (what we trivialize by calling them mentors) were his father and a professor Ben Hamliton? He stressed the importance of having the right Heros that encourage you to do the right actions.
Warren Buffett is an Obama supporter. He indicated that 20% of GDP is spent on government items (war, welfare, ect). So given the constant that 20% of GDP, whether it be under democratic or republican rule, the question is who pays for that 20%. He said that he had his employees calculate taxes as a percentage of their pay. He instructed them to include payroll taxes, as we never see them; however, they are paid on our behalf. To his NO suprise, he only paid approximately 17% of taxes while average salary earning employees paid approximately 32% of their earnings back to the government. Essentially, he is a proponent for the redistribution of wealth. That is a humble, honest man speaking. Basically he's saying that all the rich people need to get over themselves and realize that it's not all about *ME or the I.* It's about the US (get it United States).
Next, he indicated that what sets true leaders apart from each other is Passion. Intelligence, Hardwork and Integrity. If one doesn't have Integrity, he hopes that they are dumb and lazy.
Secondly, after listening to the leaders speak on how markets must react to the environment. I think it'd be a good time to make a short-term investment in the warehousing industry. Essentially, gas is too expensive. Warehouses cut the route to market costs.
I'm so going to read a few of his books. He's got me so hype.
Oh and he made at least 4 dirty jokes. I'll attempt to retell the funniest:
A rich wall-street man falls upon hard times. He comes home to his wife and says, "Dear, I'm afriad that I won't be getting a bonus this year or next year. As a result, we're going to have to cut-back. I'm hoping that you could learn how to cook so that we could fire our chef."
Her response, "Okay, If you learn how to make love, we can fire the gardener!"
A woman asked, "I'm 27, you're 77. What advice could you give to me as I enter my 27th year?" Essentially Warren Buffett said that in your early stages of life you can improve upon yourself by being a better communicator. Essentially he indicated that's what seperates a regular person from an extradinary person. We all have the potential to be awesome; however, we must know how to communicate these personal qualities to the world.
Surprisingly, he also indicated that a MAJOR decision of his in life was marriage and who he selected as a spouse. Okay, take a step back. THE RICHEST MAN IN THE WORLD could've answered anything and he said one of his most important / valued decisions was who he married. He marreid at age 20 or 21 and his wife was 19. Another woman put herself on blast and asked as a wife how to best be supportive if you are married to a risk taker. He said that his wife never questioned how much money he would bring home. The only thing she was concerned about is that he was happy doing what he does. That is amazing, and even I fall short of being *that* woman. But at the same time, I think as a woman, we must only have comfort if our man has a passion for what he does and is good at it.
He also indicated that his Heros (what we trivialize by calling them mentors) were his father and a professor Ben Hamliton? He stressed the importance of having the right Heros that encourage you to do the right actions.
Warren Buffett is an Obama supporter. He indicated that 20% of GDP is spent on government items (war, welfare, ect). So given the constant that 20% of GDP, whether it be under democratic or republican rule, the question is who pays for that 20%. He said that he had his employees calculate taxes as a percentage of their pay. He instructed them to include payroll taxes, as we never see them; however, they are paid on our behalf. To his NO suprise, he only paid approximately 17% of taxes while average salary earning employees paid approximately 32% of their earnings back to the government. Essentially, he is a proponent for the redistribution of wealth. That is a humble, honest man speaking. Basically he's saying that all the rich people need to get over themselves and realize that it's not all about *ME or the I.* It's about the US (get it United States).
Next, he indicated that what sets true leaders apart from each other is Passion. Intelligence, Hardwork and Integrity. If one doesn't have Integrity, he hopes that they are dumb and lazy.
Secondly, after listening to the leaders speak on how markets must react to the environment. I think it'd be a good time to make a short-term investment in the warehousing industry. Essentially, gas is too expensive. Warehouses cut the route to market costs.
I'm so going to read a few of his books. He's got me so hype.
Oh and he made at least 4 dirty jokes. I'll attempt to retell the funniest:
A rich wall-street man falls upon hard times. He comes home to his wife and says, "Dear, I'm afriad that I won't be getting a bonus this year or next year. As a result, we're going to have to cut-back. I'm hoping that you could learn how to cook so that we could fire our chef."
Her response, "Okay, If you learn how to make love, we can fire the gardener!"
7.01.2008
When mirrors aren't available, ask somebody
So this what somebody had to say about me: Well as far as that goes you have MILF written all over you. haha you will always be that fine ass mom everybody wants to know a little better. but for real, I think you are very smart and that you have your career on lock and now you want to focus more on obtaining the same amount of success in the relationship field. You know who you are as a person and you know what you bring to the table and wont settle for anything less than a real man who knows how to keep up with a woman like you.
Pretty accurate assessment.
Pretty accurate assessment.
You ever have a day where you KNOW God used you as the comedy
channel.
Because somebody has got to be laughing at you to make this day worth it.
My co-worker buddy is admiring my blackberry. He's got one, but it's not the curve and he's amazed at how much smaller mine is. Then he proceeds to add himself to my black berry messenger contact list. Dude is real cool, is probably my best guy friend at work...we have a really candid relationship. In the middle of him trying to add himself to my contact list, I get the following message:
You must have used BOB last night and the O was so intense it knocked you out.
MORTIFIED, EMBARRASSED - all the while, it was kind of funny, so I couldn't help but to laugh.
My coworker laughs, and continues to tell him all about this wonderful guy Bob that I've been dating. Snark snark snark.
Because somebody has got to be laughing at you to make this day worth it.
My co-worker buddy is admiring my blackberry. He's got one, but it's not the curve and he's amazed at how much smaller mine is. Then he proceeds to add himself to my black berry messenger contact list. Dude is real cool, is probably my best guy friend at work...we have a really candid relationship. In the middle of him trying to add himself to my contact list, I get the following message:
You must have used BOB last night and the O was so intense it knocked you out.
MORTIFIED, EMBARRASSED - all the while, it was kind of funny, so I couldn't help but to laugh.
My coworker laughs, and continues to tell him all about this wonderful guy Bob that I've been dating. Snark snark snark.
6.29.2008
Race Observations
So this whole Kickball thing has me thinking. Again, I was "the only one." That was the scenario all through elementary school, one of 5 in middle school and still the minority in high school. Back to one of a handful in college, the work world. So it's not a foreign feeling; however, it's still uncomfortable at times...for me; perhaps not for those around me.
But then I got to thinking...black people don't DO things...at least not in ATL. You have a handful of those that are active in the community; however, the general population don't do much other than go to the club and get drunk. *sigh* - been there done that.
There are kickball, softball, soccer, ect leagues all over the city that I was blind to until recently. There is a separate black alumni group; however, they don't participate in any leagues. The Atlanta Urban League for young professionals has a health conscious committee that can barely get together 2 people to do a walk around piedmont park on Saturday mornings.
Then I got to thinking, white folks talk about going "to the lake," on the weekends, playing sports etc. All this stuff, I truly enjoy and miss from my youth. Not that I want to divorce my 'blackness' but I truly don't get it. I hate that I feel like in order to enjoy certain things, I need to be "the only one."
In other words. All I want in this life is to be cared for the way I want to care for another person. Eek - I'm feeling sappy and personal. Is it *that time of month?*
But then I got to thinking...black people don't DO things...at least not in ATL. You have a handful of those that are active in the community; however, the general population don't do much other than go to the club and get drunk. *sigh* - been there done that.
There are kickball, softball, soccer, ect leagues all over the city that I was blind to until recently. There is a separate black alumni group; however, they don't participate in any leagues. The Atlanta Urban League for young professionals has a health conscious committee that can barely get together 2 people to do a walk around piedmont park on Saturday mornings.
Then I got to thinking, white folks talk about going "to the lake," on the weekends, playing sports etc. All this stuff, I truly enjoy and miss from my youth. Not that I want to divorce my 'blackness' but I truly don't get it. I hate that I feel like in order to enjoy certain things, I need to be "the only one."
In other words. All I want in this life is to be cared for the way I want to care for another person. Eek - I'm feeling sappy and personal. Is it *that time of month?*
6.28.2008
A bit of this, that and the other.
1. Kickball is awesome already. It is kind of awkward being the "only," one again. They expect me to be athletically inclined, which I kind of am. What I found the most random is that upon saying, Hello my name is SunFresh to this one gal, she responded, "you're so pretty." I was kind of like err uhhh...thank you. We had some random conversation on the meaning of names, and I said that I didn't know what my name meant. So today I see her and she smiles and says, "Rich, your name means rich...so what are you rich in?" It was kind of awkward in a thoughtful way. I kind of think that she's hitting on me, but then I might just be feeling myself too much.
2. Young Fellow. I'm falling back on it. I have a tendency to fall for a person very quickly, and then take a practical, thoughtful approach to a person. We get along really well and enjoy company, but as I listen to him, I hear a jaded, bitter person that has built up walls that I don't know if I can climb. . I can honestly say my ego/confidence takes a blow in regards to him. His first love was a model. I could sit here and say that I'm uber confident and sure of myself, but that'd be a cold-blooded lie. When you date, you don't necessarily want the next one to not be as attractive as the first. Our conversation led me to believe that he's waiting to find the model chic + my personality. Ummm. Ok. I'm not an ugly woman, and I get my due attention; however, unlike his ex, you won't see my face in advertisements at your local mall.
2. Young Fellow. I'm falling back on it. I have a tendency to fall for a person very quickly, and then take a practical, thoughtful approach to a person. We get along really well and enjoy company, but as I listen to him, I hear a jaded, bitter person that has built up walls that I don't know if I can climb. . I can honestly say my ego/confidence takes a blow in regards to him. His first love was a model. I could sit here and say that I'm uber confident and sure of myself, but that'd be a cold-blooded lie. When you date, you don't necessarily want the next one to not be as attractive as the first. Our conversation led me to believe that he's waiting to find the model chic + my personality. Ummm. Ok. I'm not an ugly woman, and I get my due attention; however, unlike his ex, you won't see my face in advertisements at your local mall.
6.27.2008
Ladies...Question:
For real, how important is money?
Say you find somebody that you are completely compatible with; however, you know that you'd be the breadwinner in the relationship. He has a job, and lives decently, but you make more than $30,000 than him. During dating, you are okay with this because you truly enjoy his company and the non-monetary investments that he contributes to the relationship.
Marriage is on the horizon and you think...hmmm, I could not jump out of the work force to raise children with him and maintain the same standard of living.
Is this a deterent? Is that gold-diggerish. (IMO gold diggerish is wanting materialistic gifts/favors...whereas considering if he could support the family is a practical risk assessment). Gosh, sometimes being an accountant works against me.
Say you find somebody that you are completely compatible with; however, you know that you'd be the breadwinner in the relationship. He has a job, and lives decently, but you make more than $30,000 than him. During dating, you are okay with this because you truly enjoy his company and the non-monetary investments that he contributes to the relationship.
Marriage is on the horizon and you think...hmmm, I could not jump out of the work force to raise children with him and maintain the same standard of living.
Is this a deterent? Is that gold-diggerish. (IMO gold diggerish is wanting materialistic gifts/favors...whereas considering if he could support the family is a practical risk assessment). Gosh, sometimes being an accountant works against me.
6.25.2008
I love my moms
My mom hasn't been exposed to a lot. So I am so tickled when she is and reports on it.
First it was the question about squirting. Dag on internet - She was listening to a podcast and the speaker mentioned this " phenomenon. "
Next our experience at the "clothing optional" beach.
Now...first thing this morning I get a text, "I went to a gay bar for the first time ever. Silly me - I asked, "where is the ladies room?" (the restrooms were coed.) I asked her if she had fun. "Had Loads of Fun."
She went with her gay-boyfriend who sang in her wedding. (gay boyfriend is just a good friend that is gay). I'm happy that she's being exposed to various things.
I'm just working on getting her over to Europe now.
First it was the question about squirting. Dag on internet - She was listening to a podcast and the speaker mentioned this " phenomenon. "
Next our experience at the "clothing optional" beach.
Now...first thing this morning I get a text, "I went to a gay bar for the first time ever. Silly me - I asked, "where is the ladies room?" (the restrooms were coed.) I asked her if she had fun. "Had Loads of Fun."
She went with her gay-boyfriend who sang in her wedding. (gay boyfriend is just a good friend that is gay). I'm happy that she's being exposed to various things.
I'm just working on getting her over to Europe now.
Perception vs. Reality....Black vs. White
So This Story is spreading like a wild fire in the office.
To recap. A Korean girl called her white co-worker a "dumb white dude from BumbleFuck, Southern State."
He did not want to report it.
I respected his decision; however, I felt like management should be aware of the situation in the event that Korean girl acted crazy on other issues. I specifically said, White man doesn't want anything to come of this; it's more of a 1st time shame on you 2nd time shame on me type situation. We handled it, Korean girl hasn't said anything inappropriate in a racial regard (but she has said inappropriate stuff to other people). The manager knew all the people, as she was on site for 3 days. She also happened to be black.
The way that the other white people are perceiving the situation is that
Nothing was done because one black told another black.
The reality: Nothing was done because a white didn't want for anything to happen.
The system works for anybody that would like to use it. And don't look at me like the Angry Black Woman when you fail to use the system.
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I'm irritated. I was on such a high this morning from The Date. He he, as I turned my thoughts to him, I started to smile.
How about I brought in the following CD's to enhance my amorous mood:
Avant - Private Room
Brian McKnight - Anytime
Floetry - Flo'Ology Mixtape Sampler
Amerie - Touch
Beyonce - Bday
To recap. A Korean girl called her white co-worker a "dumb white dude from BumbleFuck, Southern State."
He did not want to report it.
I respected his decision; however, I felt like management should be aware of the situation in the event that Korean girl acted crazy on other issues. I specifically said, White man doesn't want anything to come of this; it's more of a 1st time shame on you 2nd time shame on me type situation. We handled it, Korean girl hasn't said anything inappropriate in a racial regard (but she has said inappropriate stuff to other people). The manager knew all the people, as she was on site for 3 days. She also happened to be black.
The way that the other white people are perceiving the situation is that
Nothing was done because one black told another black.
The reality: Nothing was done because a white didn't want for anything to happen.
The system works for anybody that would like to use it. And don't look at me like the Angry Black Woman when you fail to use the system.
see more pwn and owned pictures
I'm irritated. I was on such a high this morning from The Date. He he, as I turned my thoughts to him, I started to smile.
How about I brought in the following CD's to enhance my amorous mood:
Avant - Private Room
Brian McKnight - Anytime
Floetry - Flo'Ology Mixtape Sampler
Amerie - Touch
Beyonce - Bday
The DATE
Wow. I mean WOW.
and on a different note. I recognize that dude ain't perfect...as in his "resume" ain't the best. Ex had a great resume, but left me unfulfilled. This dude's resume is a bit less than stellar; however, there are no gaps in the emotional connection thus far. I see potential in him.
And he invited me to his basketball game...how cute is that? He plays in some organized recreational league...I'mma go tomorrow and cheer him on.
He is so opposite of what I'm used to. It's so refreshing. I can breathe a sigh of relief.
and on a different note. I recognize that dude ain't perfect...as in his "resume" ain't the best. Ex had a great resume, but left me unfulfilled. This dude's resume is a bit less than stellar; however, there are no gaps in the emotional connection thus far. I see potential in him.
And he invited me to his basketball game...how cute is that? He plays in some organized recreational league...I'mma go tomorrow and cheer him on.
He is so opposite of what I'm used to. It's so refreshing. I can breathe a sigh of relief.
6.24.2008
Associates (c) Greg Real World Hollywood
Interestingly enough, the definition of Associate per dictionary.com was more liberal than I thought it would be. But what best captures the distinction between a friend and an associate is: having subordinate status; without full rights and privileges. Friend was defined as "a person you know well and regard with affection and trust"
There is a lot more to this that won't go on blogosphere. But basically, today is a one in which I saw that a friend needs to be called an associate.
There is a lot more to this that won't go on blogosphere. But basically, today is a one in which I saw that a friend needs to be called an associate.
Confession
I'm giddy about this new guy. I'll call him Borders. We met Friday night. His initial approach was all wrong and oh-so-typical. But as we continued talking, he felt more like a friend, instead of a dude that was trying to sleep with me. And typically I shy away from uber attractive people b/c they have some sense of entitlement. He recognizes that he's attractive, but he values his personality even more. He's excitable. I'm pretty calm and laid back, he's like a rambunctious little kid. He likes to lay out the world as he sees it (expectations). Like last night we had a conversation about "phone etiquette." As simple as it was, it's nice to understand what one perceives as polite and rude. He makes me laugh. He makes me talk. We talked 5 hours one night and 2.5 the next. I told him, I can't sustain that because I need sleep, but I thoroughly enjoy chatting it up with him. I'm trying to "play coy" and wait until he invites me out to do something...but quite frankly I want to see him again to make sure that my drunk eye wasn't working. I want to make sure that he finds me attractive.
Whatever, I might suggest to him that we meet up at Starbucks and or Borders for a mini date. (plus I want to feel up on his big burly biceps). I'm not into games...if he's taken aback by my forwardness - then he's not the one for me anyway.
Whatever, I might suggest to him that we meet up at Starbucks and or Borders for a mini date. (plus I want to feel up on his big burly biceps). I'm not into games...if he's taken aback by my forwardness - then he's not the one for me anyway.
6.23.2008
In the spirit of George Carlin (R.I.P.)
Friday I met a young attractive fellow. Our first conversation was great. He secretly slipped out that he's somewhat of a conspiracy theorist. After listening to him skim the surface of some of his curiosities, I asked, "have you watched Zeitgeist?" His eyes got big and he felt like he hit the jackpot in me.
I was taken aback because usually young (28) hot guys don't hold my interest. I was adament in not putting out good time girl vibes, and I let him know...I'm not out here looking for "a good time." I want to get to know people and see if we are compatible. Well, we spent 5 hours talking on the phone last night, which is something I haven't done since I was in high school.
Most interesting is our view on religion. He first directed to a George Carlin clip on youtube which summarized his overall question about religion. Essentially, "So you want me to believe that there is a invincible man in the sky..." I found his views on religion to be even more interesting becasue contrary to me, he grew up going to church every Sunday. But we both concur that there is a lot to be questioned about religion (Christianity).
The following movie, Zeitgeist, is a conspiracy theorists dream movie. It is broken up into 3 parts 1) Religion 2) 9/11 and 3) Federal Reserve.
The religious part outlines the fact that Jesus was not the first figure to be born of a virgin...essentially the story of Jesus is borrowed from other religions / mythical stories. I don't think it's a coincidence that the Jesus is the "son" of God and the Sun used to be the most respected/worshiped physical object observed by those on earth. Most people are brought up in a church and discouraged from asking quesitons about religion. I've come to accept that my concept of faith is saying..."I may not believe in the literal sense of many things, but there is a powerful story with powerful lessons."
I'd suggest that you play the video in the background (listening to headphones). The first 10-15 minutes are pretty slow. Actually I suggest going straight to the 14th minute, as that's where the questioning first starts. If you watch between the 14th and 25th minute - really...what is your reaction? Did you already know some of that information? Do you think these things are coincidence?
I was taken aback because usually young (28) hot guys don't hold my interest. I was adament in not putting out good time girl vibes, and I let him know...I'm not out here looking for "a good time." I want to get to know people and see if we are compatible. Well, we spent 5 hours talking on the phone last night, which is something I haven't done since I was in high school.
Most interesting is our view on religion. He first directed to a George Carlin clip on youtube which summarized his overall question about religion. Essentially, "So you want me to believe that there is a invincible man in the sky..." I found his views on religion to be even more interesting becasue contrary to me, he grew up going to church every Sunday. But we both concur that there is a lot to be questioned about religion (Christianity).
The following movie, Zeitgeist, is a conspiracy theorists dream movie. It is broken up into 3 parts 1) Religion 2) 9/11 and 3) Federal Reserve.
The religious part outlines the fact that Jesus was not the first figure to be born of a virgin...essentially the story of Jesus is borrowed from other religions / mythical stories. I don't think it's a coincidence that the Jesus is the "son" of God and the Sun used to be the most respected/worshiped physical object observed by those on earth. Most people are brought up in a church and discouraged from asking quesitons about religion. I've come to accept that my concept of faith is saying..."I may not believe in the literal sense of many things, but there is a powerful story with powerful lessons."
I'd suggest that you play the video in the background (listening to headphones). The first 10-15 minutes are pretty slow. Actually I suggest going straight to the 14th minute, as that's where the questioning first starts. If you watch between the 14th and 25th minute - really...what is your reaction? Did you already know some of that information? Do you think these things are coincidence?
6.22.2008
Dating SUCKS ASS - But Martin Luther is the best.
Yesterday I heard that my favorite male artist was performing in the city (as seen above). Figo and I had plans to watch a movie; however, I let him know that there was a change in plans for our date. He was game. Figo is the 35 year old who I met at work. Not the cutest; however, conversation is good and quite frankly, he makes me feel special.
So he takes me a nice restaurant. I'm carrying the conversation, which starts to annoy me. We move onto the topic of favorite things to eat / cook.
I tell a story about how I survived on Omelettes for 2 weeks when I first moved to ATL, therefore I take pride in cooking them.
He's like I have a story about Omelettes. ...he goes on to tell me about how he travels to Africa for work frequently and has to be careful about what he eats b/c his digestive system is sensitive.
Cool so far...right?
Then he says how one late midnight, he's reviewing the menu and sees an Omelette. He orders it. He eats its.
You ready for this????
"I ate it, and it made me have such a good BM that I ordered it 3 nights in a row."
SunFresh: Smiles politely, thinks...WTF did this fool just tell me that an omelette made him shit really good? Yes, this will be our last date.
The concert was wonderful. Martin Luther's voice is like hot chocolate on a cold winter day - it simply soothes the soul. AND he's sexier than a muffukka. Seriously, he is. The venue was really small and I was sitting in the front-center, so I know he saw me rocking out to his music. There is one song that he sang that used to bring me to tears because the lyrics hit me just right:
"Sometimes I want to feel like I'm the one in control. Take back every element of me that they stole. I'll be fine when I heal my mind body and soul. Until then take your time and make sure that you do it riiiiiight. Make your moves knowing that God is on our siiiiiide." (When you have a bad job...those lyrics fit the bill perfectly)
I got a picture with him.
Also, Kelly Love Jones performed. Look her up. I thoroughly enjoyed her music as well, I bought her CD right there at the concert.
Lastly, really...my stride was so STANK last night. My outfit was so HOT that random people on the street handed me compliments. I feel like I wasted a GREAT outfit. I will have to recycle that outfit and give it to the masses to be appreciated.
6.21.2008
It's a blog thing, you wouldn't understand.
Lol - this is a reference to the fact that there was a joke that there needs to be a code amongst people in blog-world. I don't know if this holds true for everybody; however, I think there is a commonality amongst people that find/seek refuge in internet mediums.
At this time, I can't quite articulate what is comforting for me. Essentially, there are times, when I crave interaction without the action. Also, interaction via the internet is easily controlled. If somebody says something that you disagree with, you can debate, but you can also shut them off. And nobody's feelings get hurt. They are not vested in you, and you are not vested in them. You simply exchange ideas, but don't exchange emotion and/or feeling.
It's almost impossible to do this in person. Too many human elements come into play. On the nets, physical appearance rarely comes into play, you allow people to see you for who you are...and they are not distracted by the many imperfections that we all possess. So there is comfort. Ehh - I went WAYYY off topic. At least way off topic than what lead me to blog at this 2:09 am moment.
At this time, I can't quite articulate what is comforting for me. Essentially, there are times, when I crave interaction without the action. Also, interaction via the internet is easily controlled. If somebody says something that you disagree with, you can debate, but you can also shut them off. And nobody's feelings get hurt. They are not vested in you, and you are not vested in them. You simply exchange ideas, but don't exchange emotion and/or feeling.
It's almost impossible to do this in person. Too many human elements come into play. On the nets, physical appearance rarely comes into play, you allow people to see you for who you are...and they are not distracted by the many imperfections that we all possess. So there is comfort. Ehh - I went WAYYY off topic. At least way off topic than what lead me to blog at this 2:09 am moment.
6.20.2008
Tell 'Em Why You Mad...
1. There is no such thing as a secret and/or a confidant
2. Why is my cervix to the far right bottom? Where is the b*tch supposed to be?
Tell 'Em Why You Happy
1. Old Navy actually has some cute clothes!
2. Patience paid off, I bought this $80 dress for $30
2. Why is my cervix to the far right bottom? Where is the b*tch supposed to be?
Tell 'Em Why You Happy
1. Old Navy actually has some cute clothes!
2. Patience paid off, I bought this $80 dress for $30
6.19.2008
On: Global Warming
Are you surprised / shocked by the flooding in Iowa?
I wasn't AT ALL. Not even one little bit surprised.
Where did you think Lake Lanier went? Clearly, it made it's way to Iowa.
If there are severe droughts in one part of the world, TRUST that there will be severe flooding.
I wasn't AT ALL. Not even one little bit surprised.
Where did you think Lake Lanier went? Clearly, it made it's way to Iowa.
If there are severe droughts in one part of the world, TRUST that there will be severe flooding.
FINALLY - THEY STEPPED UP TO THE PLATE
Except it's still only on internet world. As we used to say in elementary school
TAKE THIS AND PASS IT ALONG
TAKE THIS AND PASS IT ALONG
6.17.2008
You can't have him
And you can't have my unborn son or daughter either.
Can he have yours? Does he have yours?
In other news: Baracknophobia as defined by Jon Stewart!
R. Kelly Not Guilty Celebration Party!!!!
2NITE @ CHUCK E CHEESE
7pm - Until
Girls Free B4 9 w/ high school ID...
No Parents Please
After party hosted by Michael Jackson!!!!
7pm - Until
Girls Free B4 9 w/ high school ID...
No Parents Please
After party hosted by Michael Jackson!!!!
6.16.2008
So real talk...which will prolly go ignored, but hey I'll throw it out there.
For those of you who have gone to a psychologist/psychiatrist - what was the trigger that convinced you to go?
2008 Predictions
I'm going to predict that Osama Bin Laden will be found within 10 days of election day...by Bush himself personally, Chuck Norris style. Mark my words...and then pay me when I'm right.
6.15.2008
What are you thankful to your father for?
So my favorite message board - I threw this question out. The responses are rather surprising... (feel free to leave your own perspective in the comments)
1. nothing, my biological didn't bother
1a. answer I expect from 80% of Black folk
1b. You kinda high balled it, it's ONLY 70% (SunFresh)
2. Being good lookin
3. All he ever asked was that I set a goal and put in all the work I could.
4. my father is more like a little brother
5. so much
6. i could write a book about my dad but basically i love him
7. not a damn thing
8. for being there to provide a 2 earner income, thus statistically making it much more likely that I would graduate from
high school and not end up in prison/jail
9. For being a perfect example of everything a father and husband should be. Just about everything I know and have learned about being a great dad and a great husband I learned from the example put forth by my father
10. for teaching me to be frugal and make good decisions about money"
11. leaving me the hell alone...until this month
12. getting me the FUCK away from my mother
13. For reconciling with my Mother after literally 22 years of beef. They never got divorced because their respective piety didn't allow for that, but they would go months under the same roof without speaking to each other....well, last week they officially reconciled and are going to counseling.
14. For letting me cry when i needed to
15. for making me a fighter
16. He made me feel special and valuable
17, For caring when don't nobody else care.
18. so its father's day?
19. for encouraging me to be the best person i can be.
20. I ALWAYS felt loved by my father....
21. for showing me what it looks like
22. he put real fear in me of disrespecting seniority...not the most normal/happy of upbringings, but he did the best he knew how to and we're on okay terms these days
23. for signin those adoption papers
24. soo much,but to make it simple,I'm thankful that I know what to expect in a husband and and I'm thankful that he continually went/and still goes out of his way to make sure I have the best life possible.
25. 1) education 2) travel the world 3) pursue inner happiness
26. for liking the Simpsons
27. child support payments never came late
28. Fuck you, dad
AS for my thoughts on today. My thanks are all practical, as my father is a practical dude. The following song really doesn't summarize how I feel; although I wish it did.
Or if you are hurting today because your mother was the only father you knew, this song captures the pain pretty accurately:
If you don't have a father...embrace him as your father:
1. nothing, my biological didn't bother
1a. answer I expect from 80% of Black folk
1b. You kinda high balled it, it's ONLY 70% (SunFresh)
2. Being good lookin
3. All he ever asked was that I set a goal and put in all the work I could.
4. my father is more like a little brother
5. so much
6. i could write a book about my dad but basically i love him
7. not a damn thing
8. for being there to provide a 2 earner income, thus statistically making it much more likely that I would graduate from
high school and not end up in prison/jail
9. For being a perfect example of everything a father and husband should be. Just about everything I know and have learned about being a great dad and a great husband I learned from the example put forth by my father
10. for teaching me to be frugal and make good decisions about money"
11. leaving me the hell alone...until this month
12. getting me the FUCK away from my mother
13. For reconciling with my Mother after literally 22 years of beef. They never got divorced because their respective piety didn't allow for that, but they would go months under the same roof without speaking to each other....well, last week they officially reconciled and are going to counseling.
14. For letting me cry when i needed to
15. for making me a fighter
16. He made me feel special and valuable
17, For caring when don't nobody else care.
18. so its father's day?
19. for encouraging me to be the best person i can be.
20. I ALWAYS felt loved by my father....
21. for showing me what it looks like
22. he put real fear in me of disrespecting seniority...not the most normal/happy of upbringings, but he did the best he knew how to and we're on okay terms these days
23. for signin those adoption papers
24. soo much,but to make it simple,I'm thankful that I know what to expect in a husband and and I'm thankful that he continually went/and still goes out of his way to make sure I have the best life possible.
25. 1) education 2) travel the world 3) pursue inner happiness
26. for liking the Simpsons
27. child support payments never came late
28. Fuck you, dad
AS for my thoughts on today. My thanks are all practical, as my father is a practical dude. The following song really doesn't summarize how I feel; although I wish it did.
Or if you are hurting today because your mother was the only father you knew, this song captures the pain pretty accurately:
If you don't have a father...embrace him as your father:
Admission
I can be brash, I can be a bitch. For example, just the other night while out at a bar/lounge, this chic asked to put out a cigarette butt at my table. My response upon her puffing a few times before she put it out...Ummm, that's bad for your health, but more importantly mine.
At times, I have offensive thoughts and have reckless delivery of them. Especially on the internet where there are no faces to receive the thoughts...just screen names and or lurkers. One thing, I don't apologize for my thoughts, but I have got to be mindful of the delivery.
Lol - geez I'll probably end up being an ornery old lady. The type that says whatever comes to mind and I'll give you a daring look to respond to a frail lil' 80 year old lady.
errr okey dokey. apologies...I mean no harm.
At times, I have offensive thoughts and have reckless delivery of them. Especially on the internet where there are no faces to receive the thoughts...just screen names and or lurkers. One thing, I don't apologize for my thoughts, but I have got to be mindful of the delivery.
Lol - geez I'll probably end up being an ornery old lady. The type that says whatever comes to mind and I'll give you a daring look to respond to a frail lil' 80 year old lady.
errr okey dokey. apologies...I mean no harm.
Some stuff never changes
I find too much comfort in the internet at times. But I learn a lot from people and get alternative perspectives because strangers are much more willing to swap information than people you casually meet out and about. So there is a certain realism you get. Not saying that in real life people lie, but you're more likely to have a controversial conversation via the net than within the first couple of meetings with a person.
So one of my internet buddies hits me on IM - he was about to head out to his lady friend's house for the evening. Below is the following convo:
Buddy: my parents hate my guts for it...cuz of the whole skin color thing
SunFresh: thats a shame, so they're voting mccain?
Buddy: During the primary, my mom said only this. "you know who to vote for" which = clinton
SunFresh: i mean talkin politics people are entitled to their opinions; but, that's a sad reality tho' that they're tripping over who you fancy
Buddy: i mean like, my parents are pissed about the color of her skin...and that's it.
SunFresh: I can imagine that it is tough.
Buddy: how did you handle that?
SunFresh: You mean dating a white guy?
Buddy: yeah...or am i taking a guess
SunFresh: Lol, the last time I dated a white guy was middle school, i've been in the south so long
Buddy: i so don't believe you lol
SunFresh: they don't appraoch me, it's very divided down here; however, i'm open to it
Buddy: but what about when you went to PWI University?
SunFresh: still very divided
Buddy: meh...i thought my university was still like that when i met my girl
SunFresh: they'd flirt, but there was no seriousness to it
Buddy: i mean, if, lets say i saw you out. i'd've stepped to you and felt like there was no problem with it.
SunFresh: Lol, thanks. It's messed up but even my middle school boyfriend, who was white said that his mother was on some, "if you have children with this girl, our blood-line..."
Buddy: OMG....yo.....that's EXACTLY what i'm hearing
In case you didn't quite follow that...My buddy is a white guy that is crazy about a black woman. His parents pretty much reject him because he is in love with a black woman and are concerned that their blood line will be "ruined" (if you will) if he marries and has children with her. SERIOUSLY? I mean really, what is the fear that his parents hold? That their grandchildren won't be entitled to certain things? Might deal with discrimination? And really, I want to be a fly on the wall when the parent is having this conversation with their sun. Do they beat around the bush and imply that they are concerned about having a bi-racial grandchild or do they flat out say...we'd like to preserve the Aryan nation, do not taint the purity. Either way how selfish!
It's amazing that we can be on the brink of having a bi-racial president when there are people that think like this.
So one of my internet buddies hits me on IM - he was about to head out to his lady friend's house for the evening. Below is the following convo:
Buddy: my parents hate my guts for it...cuz of the whole skin color thing
SunFresh: thats a shame, so they're voting mccain?
Buddy: During the primary, my mom said only this. "you know who to vote for" which = clinton
SunFresh: i mean talkin politics people are entitled to their opinions; but, that's a sad reality tho' that they're tripping over who you fancy
Buddy: i mean like, my parents are pissed about the color of her skin...and that's it.
SunFresh: I can imagine that it is tough.
Buddy: how did you handle that?
SunFresh: You mean dating a white guy?
Buddy: yeah...or am i taking a guess
SunFresh: Lol, the last time I dated a white guy was middle school, i've been in the south so long
Buddy: i so don't believe you lol
SunFresh: they don't appraoch me, it's very divided down here; however, i'm open to it
Buddy: but what about when you went to PWI University?
SunFresh: still very divided
Buddy: meh...i thought my university was still like that when i met my girl
SunFresh: they'd flirt, but there was no seriousness to it
Buddy: i mean, if, lets say i saw you out. i'd've stepped to you and felt like there was no problem with it.
SunFresh: Lol, thanks. It's messed up but even my middle school boyfriend, who was white said that his mother was on some, "if you have children with this girl, our blood-line..."
Buddy: OMG....yo.....that's EXACTLY what i'm hearing
In case you didn't quite follow that...My buddy is a white guy that is crazy about a black woman. His parents pretty much reject him because he is in love with a black woman and are concerned that their blood line will be "ruined" (if you will) if he marries and has children with her. SERIOUSLY? I mean really, what is the fear that his parents hold? That their grandchildren won't be entitled to certain things? Might deal with discrimination? And really, I want to be a fly on the wall when the parent is having this conversation with their sun. Do they beat around the bush and imply that they are concerned about having a bi-racial grandchild or do they flat out say...we'd like to preserve the Aryan nation, do not taint the purity. Either way how selfish!
It's amazing that we can be on the brink of having a bi-racial president when there are people that think like this.
6.14.2008
Shameless Plug #2
I get uber excited when I meet people my age doing big things. So last night I went to a jazzy lil' spot which hosted a young woman's launching of her clothing line. The articles are simple and easy to wear, yet sexy. Plus I love her positivity. Beautiful women doing beautiful things :-)
Check her out at Speak Life
Check her out at Speak Life
6.13.2008
R.I.P. Tim Russert
Never have I cried like this over somebody I didn't know. You entertained me every Sunday morning. I felt connected with Grandma while watching you.
Honestly, I haven't cried like this over death since Grandma.
Shameless Plug
I'm so proud of my fellow alumn, even though we didn't really hang out, nor do we talk now. I absolutely enjoy the website of which she is the editor. Everything is so relevant. There are great links on her page. I liked the following articles and / or links. Please indulge yourself:
Black Women
Father's Day Good Read's for fathers
Her blogazine is my daily routine.
Black Women
Father's Day Good Read's for fathers
Her blogazine is my daily routine.
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