"just tell the truth!"

With the intersection of a casual dating relationship and conflict up, you will see people respond, "just tell the truth!"

First I have to define casual dating. In my opinion or rather my world, a casual date would be the first 3 to 5 dates. It doesn't take me more than 3 dates to know whether or not I want to continue dealing with a person. Dates #4 or #5 might come along because you're lady parts are speaking louder than your brain, "ohhh but girl he's so cute/phyne." Brain chimes in with, but you just found out that his ass still .

We all find ourselves at different points in our life, where we want different things from a potential SO. Sometimes you just want a 'convenient late night relationship.' Sometimes you want a relationship. Sometimes you want companionship. Sometimes you want love and to be loved. But in a casual relationship, chances are you're being selfish. You are getting what you need most (could be sex, free meals, adoration) but you aren't truly concerned with returning the consideration. (Gosh, I'm such an accountant). But anywho - if it's casual you are in selfish mode going for yours.

So why in de hell would anybody expect a person in that mode to 'just tell the truth.' Sure it's the noble thing to do. It would save the other party pain, confusion ect. But if one person is getting what they need most at a certain point in life (sex, free meals, ect) what would their motivation to just tell the truth be? They risk not getting what they want. They are not in a relationship, they do not truly care about the other person. They are looking out for self.

I'm not saying I agree with this action. Heck, when I don't want to be in a relationship I am okay rolling solo. But I do understand what motivates other people.

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