One word

So tonight on my favorite message board somebody asked, "why should sexual compatibility be less important than intellectual/emotional and other forms of compatibility?"

I approached this from two different fronts:

1) In a committed relationship - it's just as important as understanding and appreciating somebody's sense of humor. Would you get married to a person whose sense of humor you didn't understand or appreciate. Right...so why not have a similar understanding/appreciation on the sexual front?

(insert your thought here)

Counter-argument - you could learn to understand and appreciate somebody's sense of humor too.

2) Casual sex. I'd rather holler at BOB than this. I went on to say how sex requires a level of trust which I cannot provide in a casual context. I went on to describe the act of sex with a word that has a rather negative connotation. Which made me want to explore why I used this word. Think on it, how would you describe sex? Not in terms of writing a 'how to' manual...it's as natural as eating, breathing and sleeping, nobody needs a how to. A man XXX a woman? A lady part XXX a man part?

my word? intrudes and or intrusive. Yikes - I just looked it up. "to thrust or force into or to thrust or bring in without invitation, permission, or welcome." I need to reset my mindset or select a new word.

the person with whom I was conversing with threw out other words such as:
drawing somebody in
welcoming
engulfing
enticing

(insert one word to describe it)